Are U Flexible?

So ladies it’s another year and well as with any new year you start thinking what do I want to accomplish, be and do? To be honest I haven’t really thought about things in detail and maybe it’s for the best. I say this because sometimes we set goals in our life that take over or trump opportunities that come up because they conflict or interfere with what we think we need to do.

What I recommend for anyone is to be flexible. One of my goals for the year was to go away for my birthday, as it’s a milestone. Things got a little complicated as my new move in date for my condo is close to my bday which made the timing less than ideal. So what did I do, I went away before (with Hopeful).  I also plan to postpone a bday getaway until the fall or winter of the next year (when other friends will be celebrating milestone years), this trip may be big or it may just be a weekend away but whatever it is, it will be fun and exciting.

As a women who is driven and motivated it’s easy for me to say I’m going to do this or that and set a date out. This is not a bad thing, it’s human nature, but if your goals don’t allow you to be flexible or to seize opportunities they aren’t good goals. I won’t lie I’m a little disappointed that my bday timing doesn’t work but it’s not like I won’t celebrate in a big way and who knows maybe more friends can attend, and if not, that’s fine as well.

Remember to live for the moment, planning is great and needed but you need to roll with the punches and make the most of situations no matter what.

Queen B

3 more items completed in my 101 Things in 1001 Days List

I am slowly knocking things off my list and now that I have crossed item #67 – Get a Boyfriend  ( and  I did not half to roofie him!) off the list that maybe with his help I will tackle more items and complete my mission of accomplishing all the tasks in 1001 days.

I think I am going to make some changes to the list because there are a couple of task that I know will not get completed and I’d like to add items that I have talked about doing with my ‘Lover’ (don’t you just love that word) to the list. I don’t think there are any rules about changing the list… is there? Whatever I like to break rules!

Okay so now you know I have got me a boyfriend (a real living man), and being the great guy that he is; once he saw my list he set out to help me knock off item #39 – Have Dinner by Candlelight.

Dinner by Candlelight

Next item to go is item #72 – Buy and wear a bikini.

The Bikini

Two weeks ago I went on vacation to El Salvador with Queen B, it was much-needed recharge vacation. Since I was going with a good friend and being in temperatures of 33 degrees I figured now is the time to buy a bikini. This may not be a big deal to most people but for me I rather go to the dentist and get a root canal.

I realized the older I get the more I worry about all my bits hanging out and other stupidity, like thoughts that people will run screaming upon seeing me half-naked.  So with my new-found confidence from being with someone who thinks I am awesome (true fact). I threw caution to the wind and sported a two piece and what do you know NO ONE ran away screaming that they are now blind. Actually the only issue to arise was that my bikini top expanded when it got wet and my boobs were bouncing around inside it like two buoy’s.

Next I will tackle reading Catcher in the Rye, maybe make poutine this weekend and watch Clockwork Orange.

Do you have a 101 Things List? If so where are you at in your list? Is it easier or harder than you thought it would be?

Cheer!

Sometimes it takes 25 dates…

Over the holidays while I was visiting my family in New Brunswick I was reflecting on 2012 and what I wanted to do differently in 2013. I felt like I had done a lot of work on myself last year and I made a choice that this year I really wanted to put myself out there and open myself up to the possibility of dating. No more hiding or making excuses! So, how to do that?

If you’re like me then you aren’t sold on the idea of internet dating. It’s not that I don’t think it works- I do have friends that met their husbands online. But I also know lots of fabulous women who met a lot of duds and ended up giving up on it. Frankly I don’t have a lot of patience to sift through profiles and email with a stranger until a meeting is set up only to find out that their photo was 15 years old and they exaggerated everything about themselves. So, I decided to take a different approach and over Christmas break, I pre-registered for a Speed Dating Event!

I was drawn to this type of event as I love the idea of meeting someone face-to-face right away! I also thought it sounded like it would be a lot of fun regardless. So on Jan 30th, I attended my first ever Speed Dating Event. For this particular event, you showed up at 7 pm to sign in and get your name tag that also had a number on it. Then as the woman, you got to pick your table for 2. Most importantly, I then headed to the bar to get a large glass of wine! You are given a sheet of paper when you sign in that has on the left hand side a column of numbers and columns to check either a ‘yes’ or ‘no’ by each number. The right hand side of the sheet was for taking notes so you could remember who was who.

The dates started promptly at 7:30 pm where a guy sits down at your table and for 3 minutes, you ask each other questions and chat. I was lucky as the very first guy that sat down at my table had some very thoughtful questions and although I did not see us as being a potential match, he relaxed me and I started the night out thoroughly enjoying myself. Every 3 minutes, the bell would ring and your date would be over and the next guy would move into the seat across from you. You didn’t want to check a box in front of them so I was trying to rely on notes I was taking. I was also scrambling to get notes down as I didn’t want to sit there writing while talking to each guy.

There was an eclectic group of people at this event but overall, I have to say that everyone was really friendly and genuinely nice. Of course, there were a few cocky fellas in the bunch that didn’t really ask me any questions but talked about themselves the entire time….On the other side of the scale there was also a few awkward but sweet guys (one in particular that wanted to get a cat that I almost wanted to coach and tell him to pretend to be into sports). At one point I looked down the row of tables to see the ladies that had attended. I have to say that judging based on appearances, most of them were attractive ladies and everyone seemed to be enjoying themselves. There really wasn’t a sense of competition going on either- there really was an overall sense of fun and a bit of nervousness. I ended up going out with a few of the ladies I met there for a drink afterwards to unwind and chat about the night.

I ended up getting three matches from the event, which means that I checked ‘yes’ for them and they checked ‘yes’ for me. When you get a match, you get sent your matches’ email address and then it is up to you or him to follow up. Thus far, I went out on a date with one of my matches and I have two more dates lined up with the other two. However, the first date went so well that I would like to see him again! I sort of feel like I’m the bachelorette and I am weeding through my brood.

I have to say even if I didn’t have any matches, I had such a fun experience Speed Dating that I would definitely do it again. I would highly recommend it if you’re like me and like the thought of meeting people face-to-face in a safe and fun atmosphere. I would also recommend that you don’t do the event with a girlfriend. A lot of the women came in pairs and one guy told me that that was very off putting. He said that it is already difficult to come up with unique questions in such a short time and the added pressure that the friends are going to ask each other what they were asked afterwards was stressful. For me, I did it alone as I didn’t want to end up picking the same guy as one of my gal pals- what if we both ended up with the same match!

If my dates don’t end up leading to anything then I will sign up for Speed Dating again. Maybe I’ll see you there!

Commando Barbie

Vacations, dates, condo living, weddings and boyfriends!

Hey peeps I guess you may have wondered what happen to Single Gals or maybe not that’s cool too.

Well it’s been a busy start to the new year for the Single Gals team. Commando Barbie has gone on  25 first dates and her blog post on the experience will  be posted shortly.

Queen B is getting ready for her move into her new condo and going on vacations.

Glamour girl is getting married this year. So she been busy with planning the big day.

As for me I been busy trying to figure out how to juggle working full-time and doing my two part-time social media jobs now that I have a boyfriend. Yes you have read that right! I now have a boyfriend!

I’m working on the story for you gals but in short sometimes great things are staring us right in the face ….we just have to open our eyes.

The beauty of this budding romance is that he accepts me just as I am and its a wonderful thing.  I knew one day it would happen, I always say be true to who you are because it’s the right person that notices.

Recently I was on vacation in El Salvador with Queen B; we spent a week lying in the sun and watching Latin American pop videos. We have to say some of those Latin American singers are tres yummy and I’ll be posting them over the next few weeks as yummo’s  or as we said on vacation “I’d tap that!”

Yup I manage to find someone who accepts me as I am… I know, right !

Cheers!

 

The best thing for a breakup?

Have you even seen a product and think WHY didn’t I think of that, it’s brilliant! Well this is the product that I wish I created!! Gals now we can eat and drink our emotions all in one shot..http://www.mercersdairy.com/Wine_Ice_Cream_home_page.php

I can eat and drink my emotions all a once.

Five things NOT to say to a Single Gal…

1)      Why are you single?  – This is usually followed-up up with a list of all our awesome qualities. I know the person saying this intends for it to be a compliment.  HOWEVER…

 The Single Gal interprets this as ‘OMG if I am so awesome WHY am I single? I must need to lose weight, stop fidgeting, be more serious etc.’ whatever we think our flaws are we will now start to obsess even more over them.

2)      You have a date? Why is HE single at 30-40 (etc.) something?  – If I can be an awesome single why can’t my potential date be just as awesome – a normal funny guy with a run of bad luck in the dating minefield.

 Saying this to a Single Gal will make her look for flaws therefore sabotaging the date before it has happened. Also this plagues our mind that people are saying the same thing about us to our potential date – Why is SHE single?

 3)      It will happen when you’re not looking for  IT – Contrary to popular belief we Single Gals are not always looking for IT (a.k.a The One, Happily Ever After, Soul Mate, Baby Daddy). After spending a certain amount of time in Singledom you give up on finding IT.

 Single Gals know this is just a polite way of saying ‘Sorry Girlfriend but you’re going to be single for a while so suck it up. I’m tired of hearing about you man less woes’

 4)      Maybe you should try online dating / Maybe you should try online dating again – When you say this to us you are confirming that we have officially been single way too long and you are starting to worry.

 If your Single pal has not tried online dating she is probably lying because we all hit that wall of desperation where online dating actually seems like a good idea. If she hasn’t told you it’s because she is embarrassed that after 3 months she did not get a date, or she is hiding her shame of desperation.

 If your Single Gal pal has tried online dating and it was a disaster… forget it she will never do it again.  Regardless of the friend whose cousin’s – sister-in-law’s – doctor’s – nanny’s daughter who met her husband online.

5)      We know this great guy you should meet – This is the most painful of all. When a Single Gal is told of a potential great guy, we go against our better judgement and actually get hopeful.  We are secretly hoping you will make it happen and that YES he is a great guy. Therefore when nothing comes of this, but the occasional oh we should really get you to meet so and so you are toying with our fragile emotional state. Even the most confident, secure, happy Single Gal will let the wall down a bit to indulge in the belief they are going to meet a great guy.

Even though your intentions are pure of heart you need to remember that we Single Gals are fragile somewhat desperate beings that have probably not been laid in a long while or had any male contact therefore putting us on the defensive.

Instead of trying to make us feel better about our Single status why not take your Single Gal pal out for drinks and be her wing woman.

Is it a Crush or do I need to get some?

Urban dictionary defines a crush as the following:

1)      A burning desire to be with someone who you find very attractive and extremely special.

2)      a painful experience, very common among middle schoolers (and high schooler’s and even adults to a lesser degree) that involves being obsessed with a member of the opposite sex (or the same-sex, if u prefer), being attracted to them physically (most common), or emotionally also called ‘puppy love’ … also: the object of this affection

I was talking to my brother the other day about a crush … I was telling him how awesome I think this person is and then proceeded to say that I guess I have a bit of a crush on him.  My brother ever so wise and quick with the responses tells me that crushes are for High School … FACE IT you just want to do him! Well duh!?

Am I crushing on this person, or am I  just thinking with my labia? Maybe I am just a pervy single gal that needs to get lucky. But isn’t a crush a little more than that? If you are crushing on someone it’s definitely a physical thing but with the added interest of knowing what that person is all about… right?

I see guys once in a while where I think wow he is HOT..But besides the passing though of “Sweet he looks just a good going as he does coming” you forget about those random hotties. Or you take a pic of him walking away and send it off to your girlies for all to enjoy…but that’s it! You don’t wonder about him past that initial sighting. Crushes are always a little deeper than that because they randomly show up in your dreams and those dreams are so damn good you are convinced he is perfection.

For the most part crushes are harmless; every now and again it’s okay for us single gals to crush on someone I think it’s just a reminder that we have not given up hope.  Just don’t let your crush become an obsession where you are cyber stalking him, or creating photo’s of what your babies will look like.

When was the last time you had a crush? Are you crushing on someone now? Do you think I  have a crush or am I just being a perve?

Happy Lusting Ladies!